5 Things I Wish Every Couple Knew Before Their Wedding Day

(From someone who's photographed more vows, veils, and "oh crap we forgot the rings!" moments than I can count.)

Weddings are beautiful and chaotic and sacred and stressful… all rolled into one unforgettable day. I’ve seen it al! And over time, I’ve picked up a few things I wish every couple knew ahead of time. So if you're planning your big day, here’s a little honest advice from your friendly neighborhood wedding photographer (oh hi, that’s me).

1. You’re Allowed to Slow Down

Seriously. It goes by so fast. Build in little moments to breathe. A few extra minutes to just hold hands before the ceremony. A moment alone after the first kiss. Those pauses? They matter just as much as the timeline. Speaking of timelines… when I’m creating your photography timeline, I like to include a block of time to just relax before the ceremony, usually 30 to 45 minutes.  This is the perfect time to just sit and breathe and rest before the day becomes a whirlwind of activity and emotions.  

2. Not Everything Will Go as Planned…  and That’s Okay

Someone’s gonna forget something. A boutonniere will disappear. It might rain. But guess what? The imperfect stuff often becomes the story you tell for years. (And it usually makes for better photos, too.)

3. Your Photographer Is Also Your Hype Person

I’m not just there to take pretty pictures. I’m adjusting your dress, fixing your hair, reminding you to breathe, and making sure nobody forgets to drink their water. Don’t be afraid to lean on me. I got you.

4. If You Want Dreamy Portraits, Plan Around Golden Hour

Golden hour is that soft, warm light that makes your skin glow and your photos look like pure magic. It happens during the last hour before the sun sets. And trust me, nothing compares to portraits taken in that gorgeous light.

If you’re planning an outdoor ceremony or romantic couple portraits, it’s worth timing things just right. Here’s a general rule of thumb for the Eastern time zone:

• Spring weddings (March - May): Golden hour usually falls between 6:00 - 8:00 PM

• Fall weddings (September - November): Golden hour tends to be earlier, around 4:30 - 6:30 PM

This changes a little depending on your exact date and location, but that window is a good place to start. Want help building your timeline around golden hour? I’m all about it !!  I’ll help you plan it so you get that glow without stressing the schedule.

5. The Best Photos Come From Real Moments

The laugh during your vows. The way your partner looks at you when you’re not paying attention. The hug from your grandma. That’s the good stuff. Don’t stress over perfection. Just be present. I’ll handle the rest! 

Thinking about your own wedding day? 

Let’s chat. I’d love to hear your story, your vision, and what matters most to you. 

xoxo,

– Stephanie